Married Speak

During a conversation with a group of friends the other day, we got on to the topics we discuss in our premarital classes. ‘The sex class, how do you do that?’ My friend asked ‘Is this directed at them when they are married couples?  Cos you know married couples don’t have sex don’t you?!!’  He […]

Do you remember the film, ‘What to expect when you are expecting’? Based on the novel of the same name, the film chronicles the lives of five couples as they each try to start a family. I remember it being a bit of a comedy, and not having much of an impact on me when I […]

‘Naked’ she said ‘Like I was just out of the bath in my towel and someone snatched it off me. So so vulnerable.’  I was having coffee with my recently widowed friend and she was trying to explain to me how she felt.   ‘I now understand what the Bible means when it says your husband is […]

Whether our sexuality has brought us deep fulfilment or led us into pain, despair, frustration or even boredom, we are created as sexual people in God’s image – male and female.  In Genesis 2:24-25, we see that God’s design for a man and woman is to be united as one flesh. God usually signifies a […]

Whilst reading an article some days ago, I recalled a conversation I had with my daughter about role models. She was sharing her thoughts on who her friends’ role models are People like Jaden Smith, Beyonce, yes, mostly famous people. I can bet if we take a poll of who our children consider role models, […]

In today’s world, the haves makes an extra effort to distinguish themselves from the have nots. Money is often linked to a number of critical decisions in adulthood. It is amazing how many women and men are not shy to admit that one of the qualities they seek in a potential spouse is that “he/she […]

It’s interesting how when we are getting married our focus is very much on the individual we are marrying, and so it should be.  But we tend to forget that each one of us comes with our entire self….. at the very minimum we are the sum total of our experiences, our upbringing and our […]

God designed our sex lives to be enjoyable and fulfilling. When God made a helpmate for Adam, she was suitable, complementary and adaptable to his needs – emotionally, physically and spiritually. When the first marriage was established, the joining of the male and the female entity into one established the marriage covenant and set the […]

Money and finances in marriage is always a topic that generates intense and interesting discussions amongst married and singletons. The beauty of our Christian walk is that we already have a manual that provides guidelines on how to manage our finances as couples. As couples, we have differing opinions and attitudes about money and if […]

A thought crossed my mind a few weeks back that perhaps I should focus my efforts on developing my communication with my husband. That might seem an obvious thing to have or desire in a marriage but I was thinking more along the lines of the fact that, as long as we have great communication […]

Respecting each other in marriage is important . However in this article I wish to focus on Ephesians 5:33, it  states “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband”. God’s desire is that we enjoy our Marriage and that means doing it […]

If you are like me, you will find that life is full of ‘blink-and-you-missed-it’ moments; ‘It was February and suddenly it’s September’ type moments. You’d probably be wondering why life can’t just slow down, why you can’t seem to keep track, and you recall the popular saying: “Time and tide awaits no man”, which leaves […]

God created me to be a helper to my husband. He was clear about it. It was not a mistake; it was a deliberate and specific choice that he made. A quick search for the Hebrew word used for ‘helper’ showed that it is used it refers to God’s help. Then, in the New Testament, […]

Why would God ask me to love my wife? I wouldn’t have married her if I didn’t love her! Perhaps it’s because He knows that I need to have a tender heart towards my wife and handle her needs with care. I am learning that loving my wife is critical to my success in life, […]

I am totally convinced that the best gift that we can give our spouse is our prayers.  Let’s consider what we should pray about when we pray for our spouses.  The Importance of Praying as a Couple Perhaps the best starting point on this journey is from the place of thanksgiving. We are able to […]

We often hear the phrase “A couple that prays together, stays together” this isn’t just a cliché.   Praying is an intimate and personal experience, so the question is why do it with your spouse?  Prayer is a Marriage Purpose One of the key purposes of Marriage is that two people come together to form […]

People are always surprised when I tell them my husband and I don’t fight or even argue for that matter. But we don’t. We really don’t. This doesn’t mean that we don’t disagree on things, it just means when we disagree we don’t take it to an argumentative level. We agree to disagree and that’s […]

So… a friend was asking me the other day if marriage was all I thought it would be. My answer to her was: it was not what I expected it to be but it was more than I hoped it would be. Why do I say that? Well because, as a child growing up I […]