Weddings

Congratulations

Congratulations! You’re getting married.
This is probably one of the biggest decisions of your life and one which must not be taken lightly. Marriage is God’s idea and is a good thing. But you must remember that your wedding is just for a few hours; your marriage is supposed to last a lifetime. It is important you invest more heavily in your marriage than the wedding.

A minimum nine months’ notice is required from couples who wish to get married at Jesus House to enable appropriate planning for the wedding ceremony, and all couples getting married at Jesus House are required to attend the 2Become1 premarital classes, which are designed to help you prepare for marriage.

The classes take place over nine weeks, three times a year, in January, April and September, on Friday evenings between 7pm and 9:30pm.
For more information, please contact us at info@tightknots.org

FAQs

Why do we need to attend pre-marital classes?

You have probably invested a lot of time in your relationship and planning for your wedding and, while the day is important, your marriage is designed by God to last for the rest of your lives. Sadly, many couples neglect to prepare for marriage. However well you think you know each other, these classes offer you the opportunity to revisit the blueprint of marriage (the Bible), talk through your differing backgrounds, personalities, experiences, hopes and fears, and look into the issues that arise from them, while providing the opportunity to learn from the experiences of other couples within the group. At Jesus House, all couples planning to get married in the church are required to complete the premarital classes.

What if I want to be married in a different church?

The Jesus House Center is licensed to conduct wedding ceremonies, and the wedding ceremony is conducted by Jesus House pastors. Should you wish to get married at a different venue, please discuss this at your one-to-one meeting with Pastors Bode and Kemi Olutunbi once your Marriage Notification form has been sent back.

Are there any costs involved?

There is a registration fee of £60 for the premarital classes to meet the costs of the class materials. Please note that there are costs involved in notifying the Council of your marriage. Please contact Barnet Registrar on 020 8359 6400.

Can we be involved in planning the service?

Definitely! You will be able to choose your own hymns and bible readings. The Order of service and the wedding vows are set and cannot be amended; however, we will try our best to accommodate your needs.

What happens if one of us lives abroad?

The premarital class at Jesus House is designed for couples and not individuals. This is because we feel that the benefits of the information are best reaped when couples are in attendance together, learning and discussing issues raised together. However, if one of you lives abroad, in certain situations you might be able to attend on your own. Please contact the Marriage Ministry to discuss your options.

How do I book the church for my wedding?

Get in touch with the Tightknots team to notify the church of your intention to marry. A Marriage Notification form is sent out to you once you notify the Tightknots team. Once your completed form is received, a meeting is booked with Pastors Kemi and Bode Olutunbi, who head Tightknots, to discuss the premarital process at Jesus House with you.

How do I notify my borough of my wedding?

You will need to submit your completed marriage notice forms, relevant documents, declarations, and fees to the Registrar of Marriages for the council district where the marriage is to take place (Barnet Registrar). Please contact Barnet Registrar on 020 8359 6400. Notice for marriages must be given in the twelve-month period prior to the date of the marriage. You are required to submit your notice early enough to allow the registrar to make sure both parties are free to marry one another. Normally, notices should be with the Registrar about eight weeks before the marriage, but if either of you have been married before, the notices should be with the Registrar ten weeks before. The minimum period is 28 days before the date of the proposed marriage; you might have to postpone your wedding if you leave things too late.

We’ve decided to go to the registry office to get married but we would like a church blessing. Is that possible?

Definitely! For this, we require notification of at least three-six months prior to your intended date.
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Do you have wedding rehearsals?

The marriage ministry team will plan with you to have a wedding rehearsal closer to your wedding date.

I’ve heard that the bible is exchanged rather than rings, is that true?

At Jesus House, the order of service includes both an exchange of rings and an exchange of Bibles. The exchange of rings is considered a symbol of the couple’s love and commitment to the union, which the Bible is our manual for success in marriage. It provides instructions and advice, which enable us to conduct our marriages in a Godly manner. The exchange of Bibles is a symbolic declaration by the couple that they will conduct their marriage in accordance with God’s will.

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